"I love my husband more than my children."

This woman wrote this in an article in the New York Times, and all the mothers in the nation just went up in arms in horror at her statement. It seems like her words were misunderstood. That all those people who react in such a way took her words to an extreme.

I have the belief that the thing children really, really thrive with in their lives to become is love and stability. Not doting.. Not overwhelming busy schedules packed with activities. Stability. And, in order to have this, my relationship with my husband is the cornerstone of this home.

I hope that when I have kids I will be able to manage my relationship with the little ones and my relationship with my husband. But, I think the priority relationship should be with my husband. I don't want to be one of those women who no longer has sex with their husbands because all their energies are focused on their kids. When the kids are all grown up, I hope to have him still around. I hope to not have to go through a divorce because that relationship had been neglected.

I think it's possible to raise children who are secure, compassionate, and capable of living their lives independently in this world, but not have to dote on them. My theory is that this can occur by setting the example of balance in your life and demonstrating how you cultivate this loving, dedicated relationship with your spouse in your life. I believe that the soccer moms of the nation are creating self-centered, dependent children who when they go off on their own will crash and burn in the real world because they lack the skills to self-monitor themselves.